Me the Nonconformist
Eversince I became a mom and had the freedom to make my own choices, I’ve heard all sorts of reactions from well-meaning relatives and friends. Of course, I try to be as polite as possible but, sometimes, what they tell me puts me off big time that I would dream of some not-so-nice rebuttals (pero syempre nagtitimpi pa ako not to say it out loud!).
They: Hindi na uso ang masaktan ngayon, bakit ka pa maglalamaze sa panganganak? (Everything’s pain-free now, why choose to go Lamaze in giving birth?)
Me: Masochista kasi ako. I love pain so much!
They: Why do you keep on carrying your baby? You’re spoiling her!
Me: Actually, I’m spoiling myself. I’m cherishing the moment now coz in a few years I doubt if she’ll ever want to be carried by me.
They: You’re still breastfeeding?! Tama na, hindi na maganda yan. (Note: a few months ago when I still haven’t weaned Zoe. She’s weaned already)
Me: Says who? Di naging sakitin ang anak ko ever. Tipid pa ako sa gatas.
They: Hindi marunong mag-socialize ang anak mo, dapat ipasok mo sa school para makimingle sa ibang bata.
Me: Hindi sya marunong mag-socialize kasi hindi nya kayo feel kausapin? If you spend more time with her, you’d know how good her social skills are. She shares her toys, asks permission, says “please,” “thank you,” and “you’re welcome” and is gentle with younger kids.
They: Homeschool? Bakit homeschool? Pano sya matututo mag-socialize nyan?
Me: Kasi uso yan eh. Mga artista homeschool sila diba? Yan ang pangarap ko kay Zoe, gusto ko sya mag-artista, kaya inuuna ko na ang homeschool. Pag-artista na sya, marami na syang time makipag-sosyalan.
They: She still doesn’t know all her ABCs? When my kids were her age kabisado na nila yan.
Me: Hmmm…knowing how to read early or late. Will it matter when you know how to read by 8 years old?
They: Your daughter’s so shy. You need to do something.
Me: My daughter chooses who she wants to mingle with this early. Sorry, di ka nya type.
They: Importante ang early childhood education sa bata.
Me: Ah ok, sige, pagnag-kaanak ka na ganon ang gawin mo.
and the list can go on and on. Surprisingly, these comments are from those people who you’d expect to know better, given their status, background, and brains. There’s nothing I can do but follow the GIGO rule (Garbage In, Garbage Out). In the end, ako pa rin ang nanay, so I will always have the last say when it comes to how I want to live my life and raise my kids.